Mark Gungor and laughable sex

Recently, (yes, I know you are not supposed to start a sentence with an adverb...I don't care) my wife and I went on a marriage retreat. The guy leading the retreat was a great guy, but he came carrying DVD's. I'm thinking...we hired this guy and he's going to show us DVD's of someone else?...and yes he did.

Here's the thing. The guy on the DVD was great! His name is Mark Gungor and his website is http://www.laughyourway.com/. His DVD based marriage seminar is called, "Laugh Your Way to a Better Marriage."

It made me realize two really important things as I try to help others in their marriage. First, I have nothing on Sex and Mark has some really good stuff. Second, I'm just not that funny. Ah...more to work on.

It really is great stuff and that's no copout!

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Ashley Judd and Wow!

http://today.msnbc.msn.com/id/42432538/ns/today-books/

Above is a link to an interview with Ashley Judd on the Today show from last Tuesday. It's really remarkable the things she has been through and the work it sounds like she does. It's funny (not ha, ha funny) that she sounds very politically correct when discussing different things. For instance she talks about, "God, as I know him." I guess it's really sad in a way. Not because she couches some of her language in what some might consider political correctness, but because some will discount what she says because of it. Her book sounds like it contains a very powerful story. Without reading it myself I am going to recommend it simply based on this interview. If you have been through some of the things that she mentions (growing up in an alcoholic family, neglect, sexual abuse) I think this book may speak to you. Good reading.

Does Technology Enable Relationships?

Have you ever had a conversation with someone looked away for a second and when you look back they are texting someone? PLeeeeeze tell me it's not just me!

I so want to say, "it's not the technology, it's how we use it." Which is right, but it's also wrong. We are a society of short attention spans. Sometimes I think that technology just makes that attention span even shorter. So if you have a relationship with a short attention spanned techno warrior what do you really have? There's even commercials that play on this where two guys are at a table in a cafe and they are texting each other instead of talking. Is that real?

It's kind of like the whole Wii thing where people play tennis on the Wii and think they can really play tennis. Tennis is played with a little round yellow ball, not a wireless joystick. When these same Wii warriors go outside they are dismayed reality. So what? If they got exercise indoors why bother with the real thing? Maybe because the real thing is real? One of my kids cartoon movies, "Wall-E" shows a bunch of people living on a spaceship and they all live in a kind of virtual reality. They are ushered around on floating chairs and don't actually even look at each other unless it's on a screen. Kind of weird...but not far off reality.

So, back to short attention spans and texting.... I don't text. That costs extra. But if I did would I be looking at my phone every 5 minutes like everyone else? Would I sit in meetings with my head down and my thumbs pumping ferverishly? I hope not.

Does technology enable relationships? The mail helps keep people in contact who write letters to each other. The telephone helps keep people in contact who call each other. Maybe the internet could help me keep in contact with my wife and kids if they ever go to Budapest for a summer break? Who knows...crazier things have happened.